| SELF ESTEEM - 15 ways to help children like themselves
1. Reward children. Give praise, recognition, a special privilege or increased responsibility for
a job well done. Emphasize the good things they do, not the bad.
2. Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously. Don't belittle them by saying "You'll grow
out of it" or "It's not as bad as you think."
3. Define limits and rules clearly, and enforce them. But do allow leeway for your children within
these limits.
4. Be a good role model. Let your children know that you feel good about yourself. Also let them
see too that you can make mistakes and learn from them.
5. Teach your children how to deal with time and money. Help them spend time wisely and budget
their money carefully.
6. Have reasonable expectations for your children. Help them to set reachable goals so they can
achieve success.
7. Help your children develop tolerance toward those with different values, backgrounds and norms.
Point out other people's strengths.
8. Give your children responsibility. They will feel useful, and valued.
9. Be available. Give support when children need it.
10. Show them that what they do is important to you. Talk with them about their activities and
interests. Go to their games, parent's day at school, drama presentations, awards ceremonies.
11. Express your values, but go beyond "do this" or "I want you to do that." Describe the experiences
that determined your values, the decisions you made to accept certain beliefs, the reasons behind your feelings.
12. Spend time together. Share favorite activities.
13. Discuss problems without placing blame or commenting on a child's character. If children know
that there is a problem but don't feel attacked, they are more likely to help look for a solution.
14. Use phrases that build self esteem, such as "Thank you for helping" or "That was an excellent
idea!" Avoid phrases that hurt self esteem "Why are you so stupid?";"How many times have I told you?"
15. Show how much you care about them. Hug them. Tell them they are terrific and that you love
them.
Source: National PTA | 
